This week’s picks are a wee bit more personal. Less, this is what’s going on in the world, and more, these are the things that touched my heart and made me think recently.
First off, Donald Miller is writing another book, and I can already tell this is going to be my favorite. The premise is basically talking about how falling in love with his wife taught him to be okay with intimacy — the real, gritty, you-know-my-crap-and-stick-around kind. I really need these words right now:
I don’t trust people to accept who I am in process. … I don’t mean to overstate what is yet unknown, but part of me believes when the story of earth is told, all that will be remembered is the truth we exchanged. The vulnerable moments. The terrifying risk of love and the care we took to cultivate it. And all the rest, the distracting noises of insecurity and the flattery and the flashbulbs will flicker out like a turned-off television.
Grace, wordsmith extraordinaire, speaks some good truth on how we use people as social leverage instead of loving selflessly without expecting anything in return. This post really resonated, and if there’s one thing out of these links you should read, it’s hers.
I love Triad City Beat, the local Greensboro paper. Louis Bekoe writes for this week’s issue on unemployment and the humor that can be found in it. As this is a place I’ve found myself recently, it feels good to laugh along with him about the beauty that can be found in slowing down.
Would you like to read a foam-at-the-mouth rabid post with nothing backing it up than a vague scent of testosterone and the frightening tone of an unleashed Mark Driscoll? Awesome. Read this thing about Christian masculinity. I think what really irks me about this blog post, other than all of it is this section, where he bullets Christian masculine things that Christian men need to be all about. Here’s my deal: read this list below and see if there is anything a woman should not be, too. I am leery of masculinizing (yeah, made-up word) virtues that women are totally responsible for, too, in the Kingdom of God such as, oh I dunno, leadership, dedication, bravery. If you think of a man when you hear those words, you might have been to one too many women’s conferences.
Men have a hunger for their work to have meaning: such a world answers this hunger. Such a world summons men to such virtues as they know that they were born for: to resolution, responsibility, strength of principle, confidence, assertiveness, determination, decisiveness, dedication, moral and intellectual seriousness, uprightness, firmness, dependability, bravery, courage, enterprise, honour, practicality, authority, dutifulness, heroism, daring, intrepidity, leadership, fortitude, perseverance, longsuffering, accountability, forthrightness, diligence, self-discipline, justice, self-controlled passion, independence, thickness of skin, self-mastery, strength of will and nerve, purposefulness, self-sacrifice, resourcefulness, loyalty, toughness of mind, grit, moral backbone, etc. Such a world calls us to become much more than we already are.
A world of CHRISTIANS, men and women, who fit this description would be beautiful indeed. Dare I offer my rebuttal to this article: there is a huuuuge difference between “the reality of sexual difference”, and gender norms that we have been socialized to believe in. There is an even huger difference between biblical gender roles lived well in our current society, and squishing men and women back into man boxes and women boxes and calling this squishing “Biblical”. My heart hurts. Time to talk about something else.
I’m suspicious of startuppy social panaceas in general, but I like the idea behind Lava Mae, an old bus with showers installed for the homeless. The people behind it have been very thoughtful, and I think it makes a lot of sense (even though my eye twitches when I read “funded by Google [overlords]” and “register with iPads [from the other overlords]”. Obvi they’re copying the Relief Bus, my favorite nonprofit in the world. And why not? It’s a good model.
Lastly, what is my friend Kevin Lai NOT doing? Well. He’s kind of the man you want to talk to if you’re a Christian, in college, and in New York. (See: The BLOCK) He’s also on staff for this new beautiful magazine (???) and starting a printing company (????). It will someday be my claim to fame to say that I knew him when he was not this cool.
Those are my picks.See you next time.